Just watched some all natural labor videos..

That showed EVERYTHING. (youtube) Holy crap. These past nine months I have been telling myself I was going to do it natural and then after seeing what I saw I'm completely terrified!!!! does the vagina ever really look the same again after you give birth? Like the tightness? I should not have watched those videos :(
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By: BabyBumpUser
Member since May 04, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
yeah no that's a no no
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Oct 26, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
My vagina went back to normal after a few weeks. I did an all natural birth. No drugs or anything. My V went back to normal
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Sep 09, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
^ did u tear at all?
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Jul 12, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
Yes it goes back to normal! lol

And that's awesome... What it should show us is that our bodies truly are made for this & that it will stretch & adapt to push out our little ones!!!!

It's amazing that shows will show a baby being pulled out of a cut open stomach but won't show a woman's ability to naturally push our baby out! Grr
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Aug 28, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
I'm here to tell you that it does not go back to normal for everyone! Sorry, STM here and I suffer from prolapse which is extremely common. Not often talked about. Oh, and I did not have a traumatic birth, no long pushing, no vacuum or forceps and baby was only 8 lbs. im not small or large either. I did my kegels religiously. I only got two stitches but my vajayjay is not the same. It took me until I stopped breast feeding to tighten up and now I have rectocele prolapse. Im only saying this because no one ever told me about it before I have birth and you asked! I felt like a freak and as it turns out, it's very common. Just no one talks about it. I'm not saying dont go natural, I wouldn't change a thing. Just know that it is a possibility. Complications happen.
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Oct 26, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
No I didn't tear
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Oct 26, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
@runsyello I personally don't wanna watch a baby come out of my hooha lol I didn't watch mine n not rushing to watch another's lol idk y but I just don't wanna kno what it looks like I guess lol
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Sep 01, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
I never gave birth vaginally but I have lots of friends that have...not to scare you more but not all go back the way they were before birth. Having a baby can permanently change lots of stuff on our bodies and the vagina is one of them:) with that being said as long as you don't develop a condition like pp mentioned you won't care because you have your little baby and it's sooo worth it!! I had a csection and while the scar has pretty much faded to nothing it's still there and I could care less! Good luck with your all natural birth! You can do it!!
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Aug 05, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
I had an epi and an epesiotomy (not the right spelling sorry) with my 1st and everything was back in place within a few weeks! Complications can happen but you can also bounce right back! I got cleared for normal activity from my dr after only 5 weeks... I expect this time to be even shorter- I feel better than I did with my first even!!
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Sep 09, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
s*** well I hope my va jay jay doesn't look too different afterwards. My man and I laugh about that when the topic comes up! And I'm not scared to admit I'll prob get cosmetic surgery done to make it look normal if it doesn't go back on its own... But then the problem remains when to do it bc we will probably want another baby in a few years.
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Aug 09, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
Yes your vagina goes back to normal. So silly to say that they normally don't. Make sure you do things like avoid purple pushing and epidurals. Use gravity by giving birth upright. These can help you avoid some of the pp's outcome. Your vagina is extremely elastic and is made to birth and return. There would be alot more only children in the world if birth ruined us. Haha!
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Sep 09, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
I'll have to look up purple pushing.. Never heard of it. Why u say avoid epidurals tho?
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Apr 20, 2010
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
It goes back. Do kegals, too. But do yourself a favor and don't look at it until about 6 weeks after, especially if you need stitches.
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Sep 09, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
So u can give birth upright.. I get it.. Nm
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Jan 11, 2012
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
What is prolapse?
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Sep 09, 2011
Posted: on Apr 08, 2012
Alright I'm definitely not going to look at it! Lol! So I guess that means shaving that area goes right out the window too.. Oh geez...
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Oct 03, 2011
Posted: on Apr 09, 2012
Mine has always gone back to normal after my 3 kids.
Hoping it does this time to lol
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Mar 30, 2011
Posted: on Apr 09, 2012
Mine went completely back to normal! Of course it took about 5-6 weeks to heal due to pushing out a baby. I looked up what a prolapsed vagina was and I have never heard of that or have seen that before. Not trying to sound mean at all but if it is so common, why don't I have any knowledge of this? :/ I like to prepare myself for all of the "common" problems that may happen and like I said, I have never ever heard of this and I am on my 3rd child and have known MANY women who have given birth vaginally. Kinda scary that this is a new thing to me even though it happens a lot (?)
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Jul 30, 2011
Posted: on Apr 09, 2012
it's been 8 days for me and it's almost back to normal! I had 3 stitches and it doesn't even hurt anymore. I went all natural, no drugs at all. Don't worry hun, our bodies were literally made to give birth! you don't have anything to worry about :-) it will definitely go back to normal.

And I agree that watching videos of birth can be scary, try reading some natural birth stories instead. Something positive where nothing went wrong. I read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth before I had my son and the stories in that book are so motivational and beautiful. It helped me keep in mind that I was made to birth my children naturally and, whether or not you use drugs, go back to normal afterwards
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Aug 09, 2011
Posted: on Apr 09, 2012
Like pushing where you are on your back coached to hold your breathe and not stopping for ten seconds kind of thing. Laying on your back (lithotomy position) is the worst position to give birth in because it's like pushing uphill and it actually makes your pelvis opening smaller than it could be. Epidurals don't allow you to feel what's going on in pushing so you don't know if you are effectively pushing sometimes. It can cause the said damage. Just some things to avoid because I know you are worried but honestly your vagina was made to return to normal
as long as you use it as intended.
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Jun 24, 2011
Posted: on Apr 09, 2012
Sorry mine never went back to normal after my first and after my second came in 90 minutes this morning it prob will be even
Worse:(
But hey, it's not like that for everyone:)
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Oct 11, 2011
Posted: on Apr 09, 2012
Mine has returned to normal after two. But when I was 25 wks I had a prolapse they say it should correct itself after birth or possible minor op. prolapse is common when in later life after having several children, I hadn't heard about this in pregnancy or after birth but I have friends in their fifties that are dealing with this now after four & five children. My midwife said it common but in subsequent pregnancies but I've never heard this from anyone so I don't think they mean common necessarily now as I'm 34 but it's a common issue for women at some point following multiple pregnancies!
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Aug 24, 2011
Posted: on Apr 09, 2012
tmi, but I'm 3weeks pp and sex is the same for me and dh. Just remember, if it didn't go mostly back to normal after birth than there wouldn't be as many ppl with 2+ babies!
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Oct 26, 2011
Posted: on Apr 09, 2012
Yes it does Hun, wit my 1st I thought the same thing. But it went baq within 3wks but I gave myself 3months just to make sure lolz. I just had my LO and didnt tear so hopefully I'll recover faster
By: BabyBumpUser
Member since Oct 26, 2011
Posted: on Apr 09, 2012
Because when u have an epidural u can't feel when ur contracting and they usually tell u when to push. Its better to feel what ur body wants and push when u feel u need to an how long u need to. U don't wanna rush or push to hard or to much etc cause that can cause baby to come out faster an it causes most tearing down there. Because ur going to fast n hard for ur body To stretch slowly. Not Always the case but usually. Because I could feel my contractions and when I needed to push I pushed when I wanted and they were able to help guide his head out as I pushed an put warm cloths on my V and I didn't tear because it stretched slowly.

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